There’s a Facebook post currently circulating that’s been shared nearly 50,000 times. It’s about choosing your partner, but it’s not what you think. The post is not how to choose your partner on Tinder or at a bar, but is about continuously, consciously re-choosing your current and existing partner. Why does this resonate with […]
I’m a die hard Dan Savage fan. When I heard that Hump Fest (Savage’s curated amateur porn film festival) was coming to Colorado, I bought tickets that day. When I told my partner I had purchased tickets for us, he broke the news that he was out of town that weekend. I was disappointed, […]
A professor once told me that mastery requires a minimum of ten years of consistent and committed focus on a craft or a subject. We don’t normally think of a relationship in terms of “mastering” another person, but the same rules apply to learning another person and learning a craft such as writing. Both demand […]
Recently, I realized that I cannot remember my parents apologizing to each other. I know they did hurtful things to one another, as all married couples do. I know they had arguments, but sadly I don’t have a mental picture of them looking into each other’s eyes and saying the words, “I know what I […]
I was never a big fan of couples’ therapy. My disillusionment is explained by my pre-marital therapy leading to my marriage, which ended in divorce six months later. It always seemed strange to me that my ex and I sat side by side, shoulder to shoulder, both airing our grievances to the therapist, who in […]
Thanks to Brene Brown’s TED Talk, many of us understand vulnerability as one of the necessary keys to unlock true connection in relationship. As I write, I realize that vulnerability is the place where I continue to get stuck in relationship, often succumbing to my instinctual desires to shut down, run away, or, if […]
In this series on Dr. Jenni Skyler’s adapted version of applying Masters and Johnson’s human sexual response cycle to a long-term relationship, we have so far covered desireand arousal. Everything in this piece again draws directly from Dr. Skyler’s Glue Talk. After desire comes arousal and sensation, and next in the cycle is orgasm and […]
Our latest Global Glue talk featured a fascinating lecture by Dr. Jenni Skyler from the Intimacy Institute. The topic was the one that we, as a culture, talk about the most without really saying anything important: sex. It will take multiple posts to share some of her wisdom, and to really begin a conversation about […]
When you are in a relationship with an alcoholic, you wait for the moment when your partner admits that they have a problem and are willing to make a change. In Crimson & Will’s Glue Film, Will talks openly about his alcoholism and the moment he made the choice to live a different life. He […]
One of the great fears of yoking your love to another human is that all humans are fragile, and get sick and die. Even the thought of a loved one suffering through illness, especially cancer, can be overwhelming, and if you have to actually face it, it can be devastating. If you’ve experienced it, you […]