In my last post, I talked about a relationship that began at my previous Ignite talk. It began with facing my fears, and taking a step. It began with courage, but as I soon learned, that wasn’t enough. Courage has to be augmented with more, and in the years between that talk and today, it […]

Image from Unsplash/Joshua Earle While preparing for my Ignite talk this week, which is about the last talk I gave 2 ½ years ago, I came upon this writing from two years ago that reflects on the original talk. It feels like a time capsule. My current talk is about the failure, and potential renewal […]

(Image from Flickr CC User Gioia de Antoniis) The cliche about the Velvet Underground is that almost no one bought their album, The Velvet Underground and Nico, but everyone who did started a band. They were just that amazing and groundbreaking and cool that anyone who heard them, coming out of the New York artsy […]

“When you touched me taking all that time an ancient and consecrated city in orbit for centuries found its dome.” -Olga Broumas In our last article, we talked about the intricate and beautiful nature of Sacred Daoist sexuality, and how so many women fail to know themselves. This can lead to trauma and to grief, […]

Despite how it may appear from my recent writings focused on sex, my own sexuality is not something that I normally think much about, especially as it relates to the rest of my life, all of humanity, and other women. That is, I didn’t think about it until last weekend. On a cold and snowy […]

At the beginning of a relationship, holidays seem like the most magical time. “It’s our first Christmas together,” you’ll exclaim, surrounded by imaginary turtle-doves and wreathed in a vaseline-lensed glow (this is true even if you’ve only been together a month). On the 4th of July, the fireworks are for you, as your relationship explodes […]

Relationships are a daily practice. Love is not born out of one-off showy gestures, but rather the small acts of kindness over time that build up in our hearts and souls. Anything can be considered a ritual, as we’ve mentioned before in a post on simple rituals.  Those who were present for the Glue Talk […]

So far in this series, we have covered desire, arousal, and orgasm from Dr. Jenni Skyler’s adapted version of applying Masters and Johnson’s human sexual response cycle to long-term relationships. Everything in this piece again draws directly from Dr. Skyler’s Glue Talk. Resolution, just as the name implies, happens at the end of the sexual […]

One of the most famous lines in rock history is Pete Townshend, in “My Generation,” proclaiming “Hope I die before I get old.” No one, even a fast-approaching-70 Townshend, can deny the bright and burning romanticism of that statement, of avoiding old age, with its pains, its capitulations, and more importantly its compromises with reality. […]